Letting People In & The Therapeutic Alliance

DISCLAIMER: This post is for discussion purposes and should not be considered a substitute for the professional opinion of your doctor or therapist.

A big challenge for many people both in and out of therapy is discerning whether to let people in.

When we let people in, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable–where we can be supported and loved or criticized and judged.

In psychotherapy/counseling, letting your therapist in is important: Your therapist cannot help you or listen to the “real” you if you do not feel comfortable letting them in. Granted, it may take several sessions before you feel comfortable opening up, and sometimes therapists suggest opening up as a constructive challenge. That said, there is a fine line between a therapeutic challenge and being forced to open up against your will.

As a friendly forewarning to all those who are considering psychotherapy and counseling: Remember that just because you are talking to a therapist does not mean you should feel forced to let people in against your will. Make sure you know your rights as a client, and remember it’s your choice whether to let people in or walk away.